I was lucky to be invited to a family constellation healing with Silvia Siret, based in Abingdon.
When I lived in Germany, I had a one-to-one family constellation session. At that time, the facilitator used pieces of paper to represent my family members.
To respect client confidentiality, I will only share a short snippet of what happened in Abingdon. I really do hope I am able to express how lucky I was to be part of the healing process.
There were approximately eight of us at the workshop. We started with a lovely welcome meditation to help us to relax and ease into the sacred space created by Silvia.
The next stage was to select the person for whom the healing would be done. This task is ascertained by the number of volunteers and the facilitator Silvia's, higher intuition. A few attendees had initially expressed their wishes for help with family issues, whether it be related to ancestral lineage or a one-off incident that occurred within the family tree that has carried its emotional burden forward to the present.
Once the person is selected, Silvia talks to them to discuss what had happened. Let's call the selected person Liz. Liz then has the task to pick someone from the group to represent a family member. This is done by Liz placing her hands on the other's shoulders and asking them to represent her 'mother' for example.
Most people in the group were selected to represent one of Liz's family member. Then the story begins to unfold...
As you become a representative, you step into that family member's energy, you start to pick up things that family member is going through. For example you may get the sense that the family member is angry or sad. You talk about what you are going through to highlight the issues that perhaps the client wasn't aware of.
The way family constellation healing works is that the client begins to understand why there are relationship issues, addictions, anxiety, depression and other mental health issues.
I was chosen to be the girlfriend of Liz's son. Let's call him Bruno. Bruno was represented by another female in our group.
Remember, I have never done this before. What happened next was unbelievable...
I actually felt myself 'become' the girlfriend. I was totally in love with Bruno, no-one else existed in the room. I could hear laughter in the background but it did not distract me. I was consumed by this overwhelming need to be close to Liz's son. Apparently, I personified all the traits of his girlfriend. Believe me, my actions were not of my choosing. I was frozen to the spot. The love I felt was child-like, fresh, overpowering and awesome!
We definitely established that Bruno and his girlfriend were totally in love and were a good support to each other.
It became apparent that I was more of a distraction to Bruno than was necessary, Bruno had some work to do and he needed to focus on the situation at hand. So after a bout of laughter and exclamations of 'That is exactly like her. Oh my God that's exactly what she does...' I was asked to sit down.
This type of healing isn't an easy or simple process. It is emotional and you can feel drained during it as the client watching the story unfolding before them can be daunting and possibly very shocking!
The shift in Liz was great to see. After the session she looked fresh, bright-eyed and her energy felt elated.
To find out more about Family Constellation healing, read the article featured in March/April 2022 edition of Alchemical Voice magazine.
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